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Today, you might ask yourself, “What happens when life doesn’t go according to plan?” When you find yourself hit out of nowhere with an unfortunate accident, a troubling situation, or a conflict? Do you usually keep your cool, or do you lose it completely?
Studies show that people who are able to keep their composure in challenging situations often lead a more successful and peaceful life. You might think that it’s easier said than done, which is true. But perhaps if you realize how important it is to keep your cool, then you might get motivated to put in the extra effort.
Here are 9 reasons why it is important to keep your composure.
1. You’ll Act Rationally in Difficult Situations
Difficult situations happen, and they’re often associated with a severe emotional experience that causes a lapse of judgment. Imagine getting into a car accident that leaves you or your loved ones in grave danger. By keeping your composure in such a situation, you will be quick to consider your legal options after a car accident and you’ll take the correct action. If you contact a lawyer right away, they’ll give you the advice you need to manage the situation and preserve your rights, instead of getting caught up in the moment and losing the chance to collect evidence, or failing to act quickly when you need to.
2. You’ll be able to See the Full Picture
Keeping your composure often entails that you take a deep breath and try to separate yourself emotionally from whatever is going on. Once you achieve that, you will be able to look at the full picture and connect the missing dots. For instance, you may understand that your partner has acted in a weird manner as a result of their stress, and you will give them the benefit of the doubt instead of attacking them. You’ll become more compassionate, and you’ll always make the right judgment call.
3. You’ll Foresee Problems
Being able to keep your composure and seeing the full picture will give you another advantage; you’ll foresee problems before they arise. When that happens, you will be able to take preventive measures to avoid predictable problems from happening altogether. It’s a great risk-management skill to have, one that will benefit you both personally and professionally.
4. You’ll Avoid Fights
When disagreements arise, it is human nature for each party to try to prove themselves right. In the process, they may try to turntables, and that usually ends in a fight between the parties. By keeping your cool, you’ll be able to take a more rational look into the other party’s perspective, often reaching the conclusion that each of you has a valid point, and that it’s only a case of misunderstanding. Instead of getting caught up in the argument, you’ll be able to maintain a civilized discussion that will clear the miscommunication.
5. You’ll Focus Your Energy on What Matters
A lot of time and energy are wasted in meaningless situations, when this can be simply avoided. When you take rational steps in resolving conflict and avoiding meaningless fights, you’ll cut the drama out of your life. You’ll focus your time and energy on what truly matters, by taking productive steps every day in building a better version of yourself.
6. You’ll be Able to Guide Others
By being the sound of reason at a time when everyone else is controlled by their turbulent emotions, you’ll be able to guide others in making the right decision. You’ll understand their points of view and their feelings, and you’ll help them see the bigger picture that they can’t fully grasp at the moment. In due time, you’ll find them seeking your help whenever they’re in trouble.
7. You’ll Leave a Good Impression
There’s an air of tranquility and confidence around people who can keep their composure. They walk into the room, and people instantly get the impression that they know what they’re doing. Potential partners feel a sense of safety and trust toward them, workmates respect them, and bosses take one look and know that they can be trusted to handle the job, even under the most pressuring situations. If you keep your cool, you’ll leave a good impression wherever you go without needing to utter a single word.
8. You’ll Develop Patience
Keeping your composure isn’t an easy task to maintain in all situations. Sometimes, situations that are extremely challenging on mental, psychological, or physical levels can make it almost impossible to maintain your calm. Even the most composed of people can lose their cool in such cases; however, the fact is, composure is a skill that can be learned, honed, and developed with time. You might find it extremely difficult to keep calm in traffic, but two weeks after putting your mind into it, you’ll start to enjoy the music you’re blasting instead of cursing at other drivers. The more you practice, the better you’ll get at it, and the more patient you’ll become.
9. You’ll Maintain Better Health
Perhaps the most important reason for keeping composure is that you’ll get to enjoy your peace of mind. You’ll start to appreciate life more, and you’ll get to enjoy the little things. You’ll expose yourself to lower levels of stress and anxiety, which will maintain good mental health. In turn, this will give you the opportunity to take better care of your overall health, and improve your physical fitness as well. With well-maintained mental and physical health, you’ll be able to live a more balanced life. You’ll also give your all to your work by focusing your energy on being productive. Consequently, your relationships and connections won’t suffer when you’re under stress. You’ll be in complete control over your life, and you’ll love it.
Keeping total composure isn’t always easy. In fact, sometimes it feels impossible. But failing to do so could result in terrible consequences that could be avoided by having a rational mind. This goes to show how a well-composed person can act in a difficult situation, and how they’re able to see the full picture, foresee problems, avoid fights; and thus focus their energy on what matters. If you practice to keep your composure, you’ll be able to gain the trust of people easily, offer them guidance and leave a good impression wherever you go. With practice, you’ll develop more patience, which will allow you to enjoy a peaceful and healthy lifestyle.
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For more information, please see…
Siegel, Ronald D. The Mindfulness Solution: Everyday Practices for Everyday Problems. The Guilford Press, 2010.